Dates With Dappers & Duds

Recently single (not anymore), serial monogamist dating dappers and duds and telling everyone all about it.

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Awww you guysssss! I can’t believe that it’s been (only) a year since I started this blog! What started as a way to write down my shenanigans turned into a really great way to share more than just stories. You guys have loved the good guys, hated the shitty ones, and have been just as confused by the weird ones as I have and I’ve loved every minute of it.
While I’ve had so much fun sharing my dates with dappers & duds, I think this is a good time to say goodbye. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what I would share in my final post and when I would write it and I guess there’s no time like the present. 
It’s crazy to think how far I’ve come in the last year. A year ago I was writing about juggling a frat boy, an Ivy Leaguer, a heartbreaker, and others, and now I’m the happiest I’ve ever been with one great guy. If you would have told me this time last year that I’d be where I am now I wouldn’t believe you, but I’m so glad I am.
The Country Clubber and I are moving in together and I can’t wait to see what comes next. 
It’s been real fun!
*oh and just because I’m not writing anymore doesn’t mean I’m not having just as much, if not more fun than I always have ;)

Awww you guysssss! I can’t believe that it’s been (only) a year since I started this blog! What started as a way to write down my shenanigans turned into a really great way to share more than just stories. You guys have loved the good guys, hated the shitty ones, and have been just as confused by the weird ones as I have and I’ve loved every minute of it.

While I’ve had so much fun sharing my dates with dappers & duds, I think this is a good time to say goodbye. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what I would share in my final post and when I would write it and I guess there’s no time like the present. 

It’s crazy to think how far I’ve come in the last year. A year ago I was writing about juggling a frat boy, an Ivy Leaguer, a heartbreaker, and others, and now I’m the happiest I’ve ever been with one great guy. If you would have told me this time last year that I’d be where I am now I wouldn’t believe you, but I’m so glad I am.

The Country Clubber and I are moving in together and I can’t wait to see what comes next. 

It’s been real fun!

*oh and just because I’m not writing anymore doesn’t mean I’m not having just as much, if not more fun than I always have ;)

The Guido

The guido was not my type at all.

He tried to make moves about 10 times before I ever let anything happen and it wasn’t until an acquaintance of mine - we’ll call her C - decided she liked him that I started to flirt back with the guido (bitchy I know but whatever).

A bunch of us were at a party at the guido’s house and the drinks were flowing. There was smoking, drinking, skinny dipping, etc. and it was ridiculous. While C was trying to make moves on the guido, the guido was trying to make moves on me. When it was time for everyone to go to bed C suggested that she stay in the guido’s room with him, but he told her that wasn’t a good idea. Then he spent the next 2 hours trying to get me to stay with him. Eventually I gave in (because yolo) and we stayed up all night doing really fun things. I went back out to the living room just before dawn and C had no clue that the guido and I had been up all night. 

The next night I was out at a bar with a bunch of friends and the guido really wanted to hang out again. My plans for the night included drinking at a bar and then having a slumber party with my girlfriends, and that’s exactly what happened…except that there were 2 hours in between where I had a quick rendezvous at the guido’s house. I cabbed from the bar to his place and we headed to the roof of his building, which happened to overlook the city. It was there that I joined the 20 story high club. I cabbed back to a bar and my night continued as planned. [This used to be my “most adventurous sex” story, but not anymore ;)]

The next night - yes this was a 3 day rendezvous - the guido came out with my friends and me to a club - oh and C was there. I’d only told my best friend about what had happened that week and everyone else was clueless. C was again trying to make something happen with the guido. I made him buy me drinks all night, but I told him I’d go home with him if he would give C a chance (I’m not sure if this made a good friend or a terrible person). He danced with her all night but I kept my word and snuck away from my friends to go have a pow wow. We had a little fun on the couch and then a little more fun on his balcony before calling it a night.

I met back up with everyone in the wee hours of the morning and C was very inquisitive about our whereabouts. I explained to her that the guido got really sick and needed me to take him home and she bought it. This was my last night working for this company before heading back to school and I think I really went out with a bang (or three). 

By the way, the guido and C are now engaged…

As Promised…

I’m back and in a writing kind of mood! Stay tuned for a fun story about the guido!

I’m back!

So sorry for my month(+) long hiatus from blogging, but I’m back now and do I have some good stuff up my sleeve…

See you next year!

That’s all for Q & A Sunday and I won’t be back until next year. If you have a pressing question that is time sensitive and must be answered by me ASAP, feel free to email me. 

I’ll be spending the rest of the year back home with my family AND the country clubber who is coming down to meet everyone and I’ll have an update next year! 

2013 sure has been fun! 

Anonymous asked: In your opinion, what's the difference between making love and having sex?

It’s just…different. 

I don’t even really know what makes the two distinctly different, but you just know when it happens. 

I guess for me when I have sex I feel hot and sexy, but when I make love I feel safe and loved - and that’s not to say that I don’t feel those things the other times. One time CC and I made love and afterwards we both talked about how that was a very different kind of sex. Everything about it just felt different.

There’s also a lot less dirty talk/spanking/etc. when making love. 

Anonymous asked: I think that I love a girl at my school but it seems that she's not into boys or interesting in relationships. So how can I make sure of that and get a date or something like that ?

You can do it the old fashioned forceful and rapey way, or you can get to know this girl, find out what her interests are, and ask her on a date. I’m personally a bigger fan of the latter, but to each his own. 

You can’t make her go on a date with you; you can only get to know her and hope for the best. 

Anonymous asked: I like this guy, and he likes me. But he might like me more than I like him. We've been talking a lot and everyday but he haven't asked me to be his gf or anything yet. My mentality is, I am still single so I can still hook up with other guys. Last weekend I made out with 2 guys, and I told him. He got kinda upset over it.. he just thought since we like each other its a given that we dont h.u with other ppl. am I wrong? I am not his.. i can do whatever i want.

You’re wrong for telling him. 

You 100% have the right to go out and do whatever and whoever you want as long as you two aren’t an item, but I think you telling him about other adventures is disrespectful. Of course he got upset over it - duh!

It’s okay for him to like you more than you like him. It’s okay to do your own thing when you’re not with him. It’s okay for him to do his own thing when he’s not with you. It’s not okay to tell him about making out with multiple people when you know that you two aren’t on the same page. You can keep on keepin’ on, but you need to respect him as a person who has feelings for you (no matter how big or small).

Oy…
He’s just not that into you. 
1. You yourself said that he comes to visit his bestie - that’s not you. He’s not coming to see YOU, you happen to be there when he visits and that’s cool for him.
2. He’s already farting around you? Romance, bro. The guy is not trying to impress you. (*I realize I could be totally wrong here, but given the other facts I think I’m on point)
3. You’ve been talking a lot for the past couple of months and he “doesn’t know if you’re there yet” when it comes to dating. He’s not interested in being exclusive with you. He pretty much just likes hanging out with you when he’s in town. 
4. He doesn’t want to love you, but he doesn’t want to let you go. You know who treats people that way? Tools. Tools treat people that way. Even in my harshest days (frat daddy comes to mind) I was honest and said I wasn’t interested when I was asked about this kind of thing. I never left a guy hangin. 
5. You don’t want to do long distance. You don’t want to date someone who you can’t be with all the time. You can’t physically be with this guy all the time (plus the other stuff) so don’t be with this guy. It sounds like a lot of trouble for how little you’re getting out of it. 

Oy…

He’s just not that into you. 

1. You yourself said that he comes to visit his bestie - that’s not you. He’s not coming to see YOU, you happen to be there when he visits and that’s cool for him.

2. He’s already farting around you? Romance, bro. The guy is not trying to impress you. (*I realize I could be totally wrong here, but given the other facts I think I’m on point)

3. You’ve been talking a lot for the past couple of months and he “doesn’t know if you’re there yet” when it comes to dating. He’s not interested in being exclusive with you. He pretty much just likes hanging out with you when he’s in town. 

4. He doesn’t want to love you, but he doesn’t want to let you go. You know who treats people that way? Tools. Tools treat people that way. Even in my harshest days (frat daddy comes to mind) I was honest and said I wasn’t interested when I was asked about this kind of thing. I never left a guy hangin. 

5. You don’t want to do long distance. You don’t want to date someone who you can’t be with all the time. You can’t physically be with this guy all the time (plus the other stuff) so don’t be with this guy. It sounds like a lot of trouble for how little you’re getting out of it. 

Anonymous asked: I messaged a guy on OKC even though I was graduating and moving away in a month. We hit it off and basically spend all of our free time together. Even though I've graduated and left, I'm visiting him for NYE in his hometown (staying with his family). We talk on the phone and text and say we miss each other. He can't do LDR again after he did it with his last gf and she cheated. We like each other a lot and can't make a break, but we're not doing LDR. Any general advice?

Uggghhhh this story is so annoying because I know it all too well (cough cough the one who didn’t love me back). My thoughts on this are this: you don’t get to go spend time with him with his family, spend as much time as you can together, talk all the time, like each other a lot, not have the ability to end things, and then say that you can’t do a LDR.

Things can be casual - in which case you would give up the routine of talking all the time and making it a priority to see one another and be able to end things whenever you wanted without hesitation. Things can be serious - in which case you would literally be doing everything you do now, but you can’t have it both ways. 

I think this will either end with him coming to his senses and realizing that he is in fact in a LDR with you, or with you realizing that this guy isn’t as into you as you think he is.